Finding Your Support Group

Do you find that you have a goal in mind, but you're afraid to share it with those closest to you?

I love Jim Robin's quote, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Though there is a lot more that goes into shaping your life, this quote carries a lot of weight!

I've spent a lot of time evaluating and re-evaluating my goals. They have changed quite drastically over the past five years. After moving to San Diego, I found myself on a completely new track and, unfortunately, not everyone was keeping up with my change in focus.

Many have questioned my goals, methods, and priorities.

It may sound selfish, but those people are no longer big parts of my life. I chose to surround myself with positive energy - Those who looked at my aspirations and said, "Good for you!" or "You've got this!"

Eating healthy,

Exercising before work,

Limiting my alcohol intake,

and finding overall life balance!

As much as my husband supports me in every effort to reach my goals, we have struggled to find our own sense of balance.

He doesn't always want to eat healthy and he likes to consume more alcohol than I do. So, he won't eat everything that I've meal prepped for the week...

But, that is OKAY!

As much as I'd love for him to take on the same routines as I do, and it would certainly make life a heck of a lot easier to stay on track myself, I have to accept that he is doing his own thing.

He's got a killer metabolism and can eat a whole pint of Ben & Jerry's without feeling bloated and not fitting in his jeans (Lucky...).

So we had to make a change. I told him that I will prepare foods that I know both of us enjoy but if he wants something else, he will have to make it himself. As much as I love to cook, I have other things that I have to do and I already allot a certain amount of time to prep in advance.

If you significant other or family are becoming limiting factors for you to achieve your goal, then you should sit down with them and discuss why this matters to you. You should mentally prepare yourself for the conversation as not everyone is going to be as supportive as you will want/expect. Sometimes you will need to pursue things that others don't understand and be okay with the fact that it's your personal goal and you WILL achieve it regardless of what others think!